Confidence
A distinction is usually made between self-confidence, self-esteem and self-image. Self-confidence is the belief in your own abilities. This means that you have confidence that you can handle what you set out to do. Furthermore, self-esteem is about how you value yourself regardless of your achievements. That is, your basic value. Finally, self-image summarizes who you think you are, including how you think others perceive you. It changes throughout life and is affected by both self-esteem and self-confidence.
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The combination of self-confidence and self-esteem
The confidence makes you motivated to try new things because you know you have the capacity. With a good self-esteem, you are not afraid to fail. Because you know your worth is not in your achievements. The combination of a strong sense of self and good self-confidence makes you unstoppable.
It is much easier to strengthen faith in your own abilities with a strong one self-esteem. This makes you dare to try your hand at it. This is because you have nothing to lose when you know that you are worth just as much even if you were to fail. However, good self-confidence and a strong sense of self do not always have to go hand in hand. Self-esteem is founded in childhood. You could say that self-confidence also does. But, while self-esteem is deeply rooted and more of a challenge to build, self-confidence is more variable. Both through life and between different situations.
Abusing one's self-confidence
A weak self-esteem is often compensated by a good self-confidence. It's called a performance-based self-esteem and means that you feel valuable as long as you perform. A good self-confidence in itself is of course not a bad thing. It's the fact that you use it as compensation for low self-esteem that can become destructive. It can drive you to total exhaustion. Feeling valued based on how you perform is not very healthy or long-term sustainable. When you value yourself based on how you perform, it can be difficult to feel good in situations where performance is not possible. For example, if you end up in a crisis, retire, become unemployed or have a long-term illness.
That being said, strong self-confidence works best in combination with strong self-esteem. You can get both.
To believe in oneself
By succeeding in what you undertake, your self-confidence will automatically be strengthened. To actively strengthen your self-confidence, you can benefit from setting goals. Both short-term and long-term. Goals that you can check off make it easier to see what you are achieving. The truth is, of course, that you can handle a lot of things all the time. However, if you don't believe in your ability or are used to just going for it, it can be hard to see. Written down goals help you see in black and white that you can handle much more than you think.
On Vitaliseras courses in advanced self-awareness and self-development, you get to take a closer look at all aspects of yourself under safe conditions and feel your enormous capacity.
