Emotions
Do you have difficulty putting your feelings into words? Do you feel too little? Or maybe too much? Do you get angry when maybe deep down you are sad or hurt? Are you afraid to let out your anger? How long has it been since you laughed your heart out? Or allowed you to cry rivers?
You are shaped by your upbringing
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As babies and young children, we express our feelings freely and without shame. You cried when something was wrong and laughed when something was funny. You were completely dependent on your parents for survival and therefore being loved and accepted was vital. As you grew up, you learned from your parents and those around you that some emotions are better than others. You began to adjust yourself and your emotional expressions according to what was okay and what wasn't. With the best of intentions, maybe your parent told you when you had fallen that "oh, it wasn't that dangerous" or "well, it went well". It gave indirect signals to you not to cry, not to express your feelings.
Maybe you learned that it's not okay to be angry because then dud was sent to the room, maybe mom got worried when you were sad and therefore you stopped showing when you were sad. Maybe you were teased for your laughter and therefore you stopped laughing out loud when you were happy. It resulted in you growing up and becoming less authentic, you adapted to the expectations of those around you.
There are no bad feelings
Categorizing emotions as good and bad is also common. Joy is good while anger is bad. Being sad and crying is a weakness. Being angry creates fear and means that one cannot control oneself. The truth is that all emotions have to have a place for you to feel good. Anger is a vital emotion that when expressed and used correctly gives you access to your power. It strengthens your sense of worth because you stand up for yourself. All emotions have a function, and all emotions are therefore equally important.
Show yourself vulnerable and stand up for yourself
Did you know that emotions are fleeting? If a feeling is allowed to be felt 100%, it will only remain for a maximum of 90 seconds, after which it will be replaced by another. You may recognize that. If you get angry because someone has treated you badly but choose not to express it, perhaps to avoid creating drama or because you don't dare, you can walk around feeling that anger for a long time. You are called short-sighted. If instead you give expression to it at once, preferably in a constructive way, then it is easier to let go and move on. It's because you stood up for yourself.
Feelings need to be expressed. If you suppress your emotions long enough, you can suffer anxiety-problems and depression. Not allowing yourself to express what you feel sends subconscious signals to yourself. Signals that what you feel is not okay, that you are not okay. When you start to stand up for yourself and embrace all your feelings, you are no longer trapped in yourself. Freedom, power and happiness arise.
Explore your entire emotional register
On Vitaliseras courses, you get to meet all aspects of yourself and explore your entire emotional register during an intense and challenging week under safe conditions. When you understand your feelings, you will better understand your needs and how to meet them. Something that not only benefits you but can also improve, simplify and deepen your relationships with others.
